Trying to remember movie where husband got jealous of wife becoming pregnant and made home videos of him scaring and terrorizing her with spiders, screaming in her face while she slept to make her lose the baby. She got away with new life with child and husband found and stalked and terrorized her more.
“Deadly Intentions”(1985 TV Movie)
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0088997/
You can watch part 1 here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=69HpM3ZlMss
The spider scene is around 39:20