I thought it was Steve Martin in Parenthood, but I scanned through that movie and didn’t find the scene I’m thinking of.

Anyway, it’s a late 80s/early mainstream 90s movie, I saw it on video or cable around that time.  American film in English.  Color.

In this scene, the dad is giving his teen child a driving lesson in the family car, and tells the child that if there’s no avoiding a crash, they should choose to crash into an object rather than a pedestrian.  Help?  Thank you!